Distress, disconnection, dissatisfaction. Even healthy relationships experience an ebb and flow of these dynamics. But what steps can you take to resolve it? How can you and your partner help each other get to where you want to feel?
If you have a general feeling or “destination” in mind (“I want to feel more connected”) ask yourself, “What does that look like?”
Does feeling more connected to your partner look like spending more time being physically affectionate? Does it look like having a conversation about what each of you is feeling? Maybe it looks like playing a game or watching a show together.
Figuring out how to get what you want, and what that looks like, will help you identify your positive needs. Then you can ask your partner for what you need specifically and help them show up for you.
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