Relationship Minute: Changing Goals Into Habits

So, how has that New Year’s resolution to improve your relationship turned out? After six months, do you see any change in how you and your partner interact with each other?

By summer, most resolutions are long forgotten because good intentions must be backed up with daily focused habits. If your goal was to have a better relationship in 2021, there’s still time to turn things around. It starts with the seemingly ordinary actions towards your partner that you do every day.  

Think simple. Make a habit of sending each other love notes via text when you’re apart. Tell your partner a joke that makes them laugh. Make sure your grocery list includes that one tiny indulgence that they love. Propose trying a fun new activity together.

Dr. John Gottman says, “Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.” Every day you can do a little and make a big difference in your partnership.

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Relationship Minute: Dream Together

Near the top of the Sound Relationship House is a level called “Make Life Dreams Come True.” On this floor, you build up your partnership by helping each other accomplish long- and short-term goals.

Do you know what your partner’s dreams are? What is that thing they’ve always wanted to do? Even if you think you already know, remember that dreams change over time. You can ask them what they want out of life. Then, ask yourself what you can do to help make that happen.

Today, dream together. In this unpredictable world, set your cynicism aside and let your thoughts go wild with the possibilities. You may find that you have similar hopes for the future, and if you work together, you can see them all come true. 

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