Relationship Minute: Simple Ways to Show Fondness and Admiration

Sharing fondness and admiration is crucial in a relationship, but sometimes gets drowned out by daily routines and absentmindedness. Still, those positive thoughts invoke positive feelings. The goal is to turn both into positive actions that bring companionship back in your relationship.

Showing your appreciation for your partner can be done in little ways throughout the day. For example:

You see your partner is stressed about a work project. You ask them how the project is going and listen to their feelings about it. You add how proud you are of them for working so hard.

You make a tasty tuna salad, but your partner loves a different recipe from a family member. One day you surprise your partner by making the special dish that they enjoy just for them.

You see your partner on the scale and you know they’ve been unhappy with their weight. You wrap your arms around them and say, “I love you just the way you are.”

Show your partner that you are on their side. Use what you know about your partner to let them truly understand how much you love and respect them.

Related blog posts

The Relationship Minute is from The Gottman Institute. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning. 

Relationship Minute: Grow fondness and admiration

As you may already know, “creating a culture of fondness and admiration” is the antidote to contempt, the most destructive of Gottman’s Four Horsemen. But it’s not like you can just flip the switch and suddenly have a relationship full of sunshine and flowers.

Change happens slowly over time – appreciation needs to be grown and nurtured. The way out of contempt is a path; one that leads toward fondness and admiration.

Start with a seed. Catch your partner doing something right today. Simply noting something you appreciate about them, even if it’s something that seems small, creates the rich soil for genuine warmth to take root.

Related blog posts

The Relationship Minute is from The Gottman Institute. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.