Relationship Minute: The “Play” Date

In “Eight Dates,” Drs. John and Julie Gottman write, “Our lives and relationships are better, brighter, and more fun when we remember to play, when we inject some adventure.”

When was the last time you and your partner scheduled a “play” date?

Just like parents arrange for their children to play with other kids at a park, you can be intentional about planning time together where you seek out a joint adventure.

Think beyond your standard dinner and a movie night. You can go on a scavenger hunt looking for items around your neighborhood. If you want to stick closer to home, pick out an online game or board game that’s new to you both and contains a lot of laughs. The point is to facilitate a positive experience that brings excitement back into your relationship.

So, go play! It’s good for you both.

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Relationship Minute: The #1 Couple

If there was a competition involving all the couples you know, what award would you and your partner win? In what areas are you #1?

Best at sharing fondness and admiration?

Best at romance?

Best repairs after a fight?

Whether you navigate conflict like a pro or have a mastery of active listening skills, there’s something that you as a couple do best—something that you’re better at than anyone else you know. Can you think of what it is?

Talk to your partner today about what aspect of your life together makes you want to brag. Come up with the name of your own award. It’s time to celebrate your relationship with a pat on the back.

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The Relationship Minute is from The Gottman Institute. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.