Relationship Minute: Update your Love Maps

Building Love Maps is how you know your partner’s inner world, and just like literal road maps, they need updates as things change.

Your partner’s tastes, feelings, and preferences evolve over time. Whether it’s as simple as the way they take their coffee or as complex as desiring a career change, a Love Map rarely stays stagnant.

Take time today to check in with your partner. Before you presume any long-standing preference they have, ask. You can also talk to them about the changing feelings that you experience.

Keeping your Love Maps updated helps you stay attuned to your partner’s truest self and strengthens your relationship from the inside out.

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Relationship Minute: Shelter in each other

Based on decades of research, the Gottmans developed the Sound Relationship House Theory—seven “levels” or areas of focus couples nurture to create lasting love. With a strong structure, built on the foundations of trust and commitment, you will also find shelter.

Does the house of your relationship feel like a safe haven? Can you rely on each other and look to each other for reassurance, strength, and comfort?

Building a strong relationship is hard work, and it takes dedication, but continually reinforcing the structure by making repairs, turning towards bids, and showing loving kindness creates a shelter from stormier days.

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Relationship Minute: Turning Towards

Changes in the seasons mean a host of new ways to turn towards your partner.

Trusting that you and your partner will turn towards one another in emotional moments, as well as in everyday conversation, is truly what good relationships are all about.⁠

Becoming attuned to the ways in which the two of you interact, and making Turning Towards an intentional act is vital to reducing stress and creating an atmosphere of trust.⁠

Try these 15 ideas to turn towards one another or come up with your own. Revisit this list when you both feel like you need to bring more opportunities to connect into your relationship.⁠

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Relationship Minute: Relationship Road

The saying, “it’s a marathon, not a sprint,” could apply to relationships, but a better metaphor to consider might be that commitment is a road, not a destination.

You and your partner are on the road together. Was it bumpy at the start? Have there been unexpected detours? Or maybe you’ve even hit a pothole or two.

But the best way to move forward is not to dwell in those potholes. Even if they cause a flat tire, you call roadside assistance and keep going.

It’s okay to hit a rough patch. It’s okay to call for help, ask for directions, or look at a map if you get lost.

You’re on the road together, navigating it side by side. Trust and love are built in the small moments, and often as a result of some of the toughest stretches of road. 

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