Relationship Minute: The Bones

The Sound Relationship House is our theory for healthy relationships. It has seven levels and two walls.

The foundation of the house is a strong friendship between partners. The middle levels have to do with how couples manage conflict, which is inevitable in relationships. The top level is about creating shared meaning and the supporting walls are trust and commitment.

In her song The Bones, Maren Morris sings: 

When the bones are good, the rest don’t matter
Yeah, the paint could peel, the glass could shatter
Let it rain ’cause you and I remain the same
When there ain’t a crack in the foundation
Baby, I know any storm we’re facing
Will blow right over while we stay put
The house don’t fall when the bones are good

If the “bones” are the levels of the Sound Relationship House, then ask yourself: Which bones are good and which need some attention?

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The Relationship Minute from The Gottman Institute, dated 5 March 2020. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.